Good Friends, Great Life!
 by: Lin Miao

While I was in high school, I developed this habit of always watching people and how they responded to things. When Im walking, when Im talking, and when Im eating, I love to watch people. I dont know why I do it, but I think its just my curiosity of wanting to understand all of the various human characteristics.

About two years ago, in one of my high school math classes, I met this unbelievably down to earth girl (lets call her Sarah), but she always seemed to be sad. Everyday when I had class with her, I would try to take a look at her when I can to observe and perhaps better understand why she seemed so sad. Later as I began to talk to her I soon found out why and I was shocked: she always gone out with the wrong guys and some of them raped her.

I was in disbelief. I have so much respect for girls and when I find out that other guys mistreat girls I often get quite angry about it. However, in this case as I kept on talking with her, I couldnt believe why she let things like this happen. She seemed so strong, so focused, so appreciative of life, but she let herself hang out with the wrong people.

Life is a series of light and darkness. We all want to be in the sunshine, feeling the warmth, that great feeling when youre out in the sunshine. At times cloudy storms tend to disrupt that light, making us feel uncomfortable and uneasy. However, we can always get back in the light; we can always push the darkness away: light and darkness cannot be in the same room.

I have this quote hanging up in my room and I live it everyday: you are who your friends are. In my life I try to be around positive and successful people because that is who I am. I know that may sound selfish and egotistical, but you must set high standards for yourself. If you want to lead and achieve, you must receive the friends who fit your standards. Your standards are there to protect you and to guide you to success, dont lower it for anyone or anything or youll regret it for the rest of your life.

As for Sarah, I am truly sorry for her and the things that the guys have done to her, but she shouldnt have been there in the first place. She shouldnt continually be around the same negative people who may do those kind of things. She needs to understand the power of saying no. Its not rude in life to sometime say no to the wrong people, its not rude at all. If you were driving down the highway and you noticed a road block, you wouldnt try to run into it. You would go around it or move it aside. Thats the way you must be with your friends: life is short, you dont have time for people that will bring you down or hinder your success.

As Eminem said in his rap song lose yourself, you have one chance, one opportunity dont blow it!

About The Author Known as The Miao, Lin Miao Executive Director of LinCity.com - http://www.lincity.com - The Ultimate Online Teen City, is labeled as one of the most powerful and inspirational speaker in the subject of Teen Leadership. He is also the Chief Information Officer for United Planet. lin@lincity.com

This article was posted on August 11, 2004